The most of the times I hear someone talking about ¨shyness¨, they always mean it like something ¨sweet¨, and lovely. The fact is that that people can´t know how it really feels to be shy, and they will probably never know. Let me tell you, shyness is not something you can have ¨fun¨ of.
When you see a group of teenages, is common that they will be having fun or joking around the shy person.
I am truly shy. I know how it feels to be someone else´s fun. They usually say: ¨Aw, she´s shy.¨ ¨So cute¨ or the worst ¨poor little her¨...
Being shy is not cute, is not sweet or adorable or lovely. Is a problem. Is a very common one.
Do you even know how it feels to have this ¨thing¨ inside of you that doesn´t let you speak, eventhough you really want to? Today, I was at a social meeting. A young boy asked something to me in front of everyone and I didn´t know what to do. My mind was looking for appropiated words to answear the question, but as I was slow on answearing, the whole group of teenagers started laughing. It´s hard to esplain how I felt on that moment, but I just wanted to cry. It distubed me. I was sad and very upset. I was angry with myself. I just told me: if they can speak so loud and naturally, why? Why is this so hard for me?
Let me say people can be really evil. The most of them wont help a shy person. Because, mostly, nobody want to loose their ¨staring¨ and their ¨super important¨ role in a social group.
Teenagers, shyness is not a game or a joke. If you have the LUCK to not be shy, do not laugh of the ones who have that problem, because is not their fault. Is not as simple as say ¨don´t be so shy!¨ because usually a shy person is not shy only because they are embarassed, there is something in themselves that never let them speak correctly to others.
In earlier generations, such as the 1950s, society perceived shyness as a more socially attractive trait, especially in women, indicating that views on shyness vary by culture.
I want to be proud to be shy: on the whole, shys are probably more sensitive, and nicer people, than 'normals'. I shouldn't have to change: society should adapt to meet my needs.
A shy person is not only thinking of ¨how to overcomethat¨ , they are watching other people´s movements and phrases. They analyse everything in a different way, a way that estrovert people do not have.
